Honey girl, precious friend: you are not super woman. I'm sorry - I know that's hard to hear and even more painful to accept. But you can't do it all. I know this, because I've tried it. I've lived in denial that my body, mind, and heart have limits -- and that's when I broke down.
One day I was saying all the yeses to all the opportunities and obligations and the next I was curled up in my bed unable to face the day.
Ok - so I broke down, fine. So what does that have to do with you? Because friends, we are in the midst of an epidemic and if it hasn't hit you yet, it's coming. With all the social media and blogs, we can now compare ourselves like never before. It used to be that you had to buy a magazine to see fashion and home design on display. Even then, we'd all look at those pictures and think "Well they are professional designers and celebrities, so it's not like normal people can achieve that all the time."
But now. Dundunduuuuuuuun!
Now we get to torture ourselves with beautiful pictures and posts that surely capture life as it really is in all these gorgeous homes. (No, they don't, they really don't) There is no way that the amateur photographer is carefully crafting her angles to leave out the junk pile in the living room (Yes, she is, she really is), and she didn't just stuff all the random papers and mail into a random drawer before she took that photo of her "flawless kitchen" (I may or may not be an offender).
Friends, if I could save you from this one thing, if I could spare you this one heartbreak -- then speaking so candidly is a small price to pay.
Social media is a sleight of hand, an illusion. What's posted are well intentioned, fun and beautiful moments and what's seen are manifestos, declaring that the abundance of others' puts some urgency on filling the lack you didn't know you had. Here's my biggest hope for you: that you would recognize the goodness around you and not by any measuring stick of culture, but by its truth.
The warmth of a hug from someone you love -- that's real, that's true.
The home that keeps you safe in storms and hosts cherished memories -- that's real, that's true.
The greenest green of the leaves and brilliant gold in a sunset that put any styled room or modern vignette to shame -- that's real, that's true.
The joy of utilizing your gifts and abilities (even sometimes, most times, in ways that no one will ever know about) -- that's real, that's true.
Social media isn't the spawn of Satan, but it is SUCH a temptation to compare and be discontent...sometimes about things you aren't even passionate about. luxe|wise is a resource to help you in the things that you enjoy learning about. This isn't a place for comparison or measuring sticks. There is freedom here. Do you admire a well styled room but feel ill-equipped to style your own home? We can help...if you want...if that would be fueling for you. Don't care much about that? Great, that's cool too. Do you feel lost thinking about how to make your makeup look fresh and current, but really want to look great for a night out? We can help...if you want...if that would be fueling for you. Totally fine with not changing your make up regimen since you first started wearing the stuff? Great, no pressure to change what you like. Want to know how to build a killer capsule wardrobe you'll love? We love that too and we can help...if you want...if that would be fueling for you. See what I'm doing here? luxe|wise is about helping you, not setting a standard of perfection or measuring how cool you are. This is how we want to be a light in a whirlwind of trends, we want to be a helpful friend. You aren't super women; neither are we. We have our limits of what we can do and frankly...what we want to do. We simply can't give all our attention to everything that culture says we should effortlessly BE perfect at. So let's be limited together, unafraid of brokenness or abundance and walking in grace to the glory of God.